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We will counsel you on your secret issues.
This is Hello, the National Competition on Issues.
- She's still so beautiful. - I think she got even more beautiful.
The gorgeous actress, Seo Yoo-jung .
Hello.
They're cartoon character guys, Hong-bin and Ken of VIXX.
Hello.
(Nice to meet you.)
Let me show you guys coming right out from the cartoon.
(The cartoon characters came out to the reality.)
- They look awesome. - I don't know which cartoon it was, but I saw you in one.
- Which cartoon was it? - She looks like someone from a cartoon.
- Is it the lady from "Run Hany?" - Yes, it's her.
It's not the girlfriend of the teacher, is it?
- I think I saw you from somewhere. - Okay.
- Yoo-jung , welcome. - Yes.
I've heard that you have your ideal type here.
Really?
- Yes, I have. - I think I heard...
she cried a lot when I got married.
(I already know your ideal type is me.)
Dong-yeob, I'm the one who cried.
(Laughing)
I actually have my ideal type here.
- You do? - He's on this side.
- Really? - It must be you.
- It's Tae-joon. - I don't think she likes young boys like me.
- What did you say? - She might.
- She looks so mature. - Yes, she does.
- Why, don't you like me? - No, it's not that.
She's really aggressive.
- She can be scary. - She's very captivating.
Actually, I like Chan-woo.
- Actually, I like Chan-woo. - Really?
Why is that?
He's right. Why is that?
- I like someone who makes me feel comfortable. - I see.
- Do I make you comfortable? - Yes. You have a round face.
(Yoo-jung likes him because of his large face.)
- I just feel comfortable when I see him. - He's charming.
- Yes, he is. - Thank you.
- Wow. - You have cold hands.
- Yes. - I have a round face, too. You don't like me?
(I'm sorry. You're not my type.)
- She doesn't. - Okay, I see.
- Okay, thank you. - Hong-bin, you have an unusual past.
- You used to be a boy monk? - What?
- Yes, he was. - Really?
He's the first idol member who used to be a boy monk.
Both my parents worked.
- So my grandmother raised me. - Yes.
- Grandma loved to go to temple. - I see.
She got to live in a temple...
- and I lived with her there. - Did you shave your head?
- My hair was very short back then. - You must have been so cute.
Then you must have had a temple friend.
- Did I have a temple friend? - That's right.
- You make temple friends at a temple. - You could.
- I see. - He could have one.
(Hong-bin is our temple friend.)
Aren't you dropping a new song?
- Yes, we are. - Right.
- We're still practicing on our performance. - Yes.
So you're not going to let us hear the song?
We're going to let you hear it for the first time.
Wow.
Give us the music.
("The Closer" by VIXX)
(They show a terrific performance concept as expected.)
(Their powerful dancing moves match perfectly.)
(They showed a compulsive and solid performance.)
(Bravo, VIXX.)
We have three issues today. Show us the keywords please.
(The keywords are revealed.)
("My Wife Loves Water," "My Life Is So Hard," "Please Look at Me")
I'll introduce the issue titled, "Please Look at Me."
I'm on sixth grade in elementary school.
- Are you? - I think...
my life is so lonely.
This happens every morning.
"Hey, Jeong-yeon. Wake up."
"I said, wake up."
"Hello, my lovely sons."
"Did you wake up?"
"Why did you wake up so early? You can sleep in."
The sons she loves so much are actually...
the two dogs we're raising.
They're not even persons. They're dogs.
I lost all the love from my mom to these dogs.
"Jeong-yeon, I don't know what to do."
"Mi-so just looked at me..."
"and called me Mom."
"I'm telling you. He called me Mom."
My mother's case is getting more and more serious.
How long do I have to stand being ignored like this?
I really empathize with this issue. My father loved dogs.
- Yes. I've heard it. - He used to raise as many as 12 dogs at the same time.
He liked dogs so much.
He had a photo album only for dog pictures.
(He had a photo album for dogs.)
- He had about four photo albums for dogs. - My goodness.
I understand her.
- I've long been on "TV Animal Farm." - Right.
- He's right. - I know what he's going to say.
There are so many reports like this.
- You really can hear them talk. - People say all the time that...
their dogs can talk. There are so many reports like that.
It's the same in other countries.
- We got a similar one. - We read a story on our radio program.
When the delivery guy called out, someone said "Yes," but didn't come out.
He called out once more, but no one came out.
He looked in, and there was a goat bleating.
(It was a goat bleating.)
- "Here's your delivery." - The goat bleated.
It could happen.
That is so funny.
Let's bring our guest, who desperately want love from her mom.
(Who is the guest feeling losing out to dogs?)
(Ko Jeong-yeon)
- She's a pretty girl. - She's so cute.
What a cute girl.
She is so cute.
Be careful not to fall. Take off your shoes.
She's pretty.
- She's so pretty. - You're so cute.
- Goodness. - She's cute.
- You look so mature. - How could your mom...
love the dogs more than you?
- Right. - How could she?
Keep your shoulders back.
You really think that your mom...
- loves the dogs more than you? - Yes, I do.
- Do you really feel that? - Yes.
She could feel like that at her age.
- I did, too. - What kind of things make you feel ignored?
I feel like that because it feels different...
when Mom calls me and when she calls the dogs.
- When she calls the dogs, - Yes.
she talks like, "My babies, did you just call me?"
But she doesn't even look at me, so I feel a little bit sad.
- How does she call you? - Does she call you, "Hey, Jeong-yeon?"
When she calls you, what is she like?
- She doesn't look at you? - She just calls me, "Jeong-yeon."
- I see. - The tone of her voice is different.
- There is no love in her voice. It sounds so dry. - Right.
How long have you raised the dogs?
He sounds like a guy from the neighborhood.
- How could you talk to a child in that tone? - How could you?
"How long have you raised the dogs?"
- Are you a village head? - You shouldn't have talked like that.
I'm so mad that I'm going to drink some water.
Are you okay?
How long has your mother raised the dogs?
- It's... - He changed the tone.
It's been seven years.
My mom goes to work,
and my dad is not living with us right now.
- I got lonely, so I asked her to raise them. - Yes.
But I never thought...
- I would lose all the love to them. I feel lonelier. - I see.
- What made you feel sad, hurt... - Yes.
- and ignored? You can tell us all about it. - You can tell us.
- When my stomach was upset, - Yes.
my mom just said,
- Jump up and down, or have a Sprite. - Did she say that?
But when Mi-so coughs,
she brings him to the hospital.
She would spend 1,000 dollars.
- Wow. - She would spend that much for him...
for medical bills.
- You must have felt so sad. - Yes.
- My legs hurt because of the growing pains. - Right.
When they hurt so much, I asked her to massage my legs.
She says, "It goes away after a while."
She won't massage my legs.
So I feel sad when she's like that.
- After a few days, she saw Mi-so limping. - Yes.
- Then she massaged his legs all night. - Goodness.
She even massaged his neck.
- She really did that? - Yes.
- Your mom massaged the dog's legs? - Yes.
I think they are more important to her than me.
- So I feel sad. - I understand.
I was so surprised seeing her mom hugging the dog right there.
While she was talking here, her mom...
would not listen to her but look at the dogs.
- Her daughter is on a television show right now. - Yes.
- But she's not concentrating on her daughter? - She's just looking at the dogs.
Is the lady there her mom?
I think she is. Look at her.
- She's doing it again. - Excuse me.
How should we introduce you?
Would you like to be introduced as Mi-so and Sa-rang's mom?
Or would you like to be introduced as Jeong-yeon's mom?
- I would like to be Mi-so and Sa-rang's mom. - Wow.
You'd prefer that?
I am always Jeong-yeon's mom.
- Okay, I've got it. - Could you...
- introduce your dogs? - Yes.
You see this handsome dog here?
He is my oldest son.
He's a seven-year-old Maltese.
He's so lovely. When I feel upset,
he listens to what I say.
- He does? - He listens to me.
He really does.
- I'm sorry. - He listens to me. I can communicates with him.
- He's... - How about Sa-rang?
My youngest son here is two years old.
- He's cute. - Isn't he cute?
- He's so cute. - Yes, he is.
He can't sleep without me, and I can't sleep without him.
- You love him that much? - I do.
He's so cute, isn't he?
- I want to ask about one thing from the story before. - Yes.
Did it really sound like "Mom" when Mi-so barked?
When I'm still in bed in the morning, he would come near and watch me.
- Yes. - Then he barks like, "Mom."
- It doesn't sound like "Mom." - He really does.
- I'm serious. - We're almost starting to feel sorry for you.
- Wasn't it just bark? - Could you let us hear him bark like that?
- Son. Say, "Mom." Stop panting. - He's looking at her.
Say, "Mom."
He wouldn't bark like that when he's not at my bedside.
He'd only do that in the morning.
It could be dangerous to sleep with a dog.
- No, it's not. - How about introducing your daughter?
She's my daughter.
- She's my daughter. - What is your daughter like?
- Is that all? - You told details about the dogs. You said he listened to you.
She's just my daughter.
Your daughter talks so well here on the show.
She's so cute as well.
She knows everything now.
- What do you mean by that? - She's just 13 years old.
If I try and talk to her like, "My baby,"
she would know I'm just pretending.
- So I don't. - By the way,
- you heard your daughter telling her story here. - Yes.
Is the story exaggerated a little bit, or is it all true?
- When I'm having a meal, they would look up from under the table. - Yes.
I feel sorry for the dogs, so I tell her to eat fast.
Don't you feel sorry for your daughter, who has to eat fast?
- She could get sick. - Is it wrong?
She could just eat fast and go to her room...
so that my babies won't see her eating.
- Do you remember when her stomach was upset? - Yes.
I bought her Sprite and everything.
- I bought her Sprite. - Is that medicine for her stomach?
- It's like we're in the 80s. - You have to take care for her.
Who did you spend 1,000 dollars for? Was it Mi-so?
- Or was it Sa-rang? - It was Mi-so.
My daughter wanted to go swimming.
I had to bring the dogs, so we went to a dog swimming pool.
I've never bathe them with cold water.
They only had cold water.
- Incredible. - But I washed them there,
and they received a shock from the cold which lead to stenosis.
I had to pay for them to get a bronchial endoscopy.
Don't you wash them with cold water in the summer?
No, I don't. The babies will receive a shock.
(I feel hurt by those words.)
Jeong-yeon, was there any other incidents that upset you?
Mi-so and Sa-rang...
were lying on my bed.
So, I'm allowed to ask them to get off.
But my mom said, "They are sleeping, go sleep somewhere else."
She made a bed for me with the blankets on the floor.
- She shouldn't do that. - Even if the dogs did something bad,
- does your mom tells you off more? - Yes.
How do the dogs treat you, Jeong-yeon?
- They look down on me. - I see, the dogs look down on you.
The dogs adhere to a hierarchical system.
- The dogs look down on you? - They look down on her.
How? How does she do it?
When Mi-so is sitting on Mom's lap,
I look at him because he's pretty.
He looks at me like this...
- and barks. - Goodness.
So Mom says,
"He doesn't want to look at you."
"Go sit in the bathroom."
She said that to me.
(Shocked)
(Why is the daughter being punished?)
- So I sat in the bathroom. - Seriously?
The dog was the one who got annoyed.
I'm sure she only said it as a joke.
- Ma'am. - She looks at the dogs first.
Mi-so doesn't like to be looked at.
She doesn't have to look at them.
"Go away. Why are you staring at them, when they don't want to be stared at?"
- You're kidding? - Why...
does it feel like you are kicking the daughter out of the room?
- You could tie Mi-so and Sa-rang in the bathroom. - Your daughter would be sad.
- I mean... - How could I do that?
- your daughter said she doesn't like them. - What about her feelings?
Is it hard for you to understand her feelings?
Those kinds of words would hurt your daughter.
Don't you think those words would hurt?
- Was I too aggressive? - I mean, she...
- Yes, you looked like you had a temper. - just could stop doing it.
- It made me angry. - Sorry?
- She could just stop doing it. Why does she do it? - I mean,
- That's why they keep fighting. - You should think of this the other way.
The dogs were the ones who didn't like it.
And you ask why they don't like it? But the daughter doesn't like it either.
You have to acknowledge that.
Your daughter moved to her bed because she wanted to sleep.
But you kicked your daughter out because the dogs were sleeping,
is this because you two had a fight?
When people are sleeping,
- you get angry when you wake them up, right? - Yes.
It's the same thing. They were on the bed first.
- She can just sleep somewhere else. - Where?
I also make a bed on the floor a lot as well.
So, you're telling her to make a bed on the floor and sleep there?
- She could sleep on my bed or the sofa. - This is because of the dogs?
Ma'am, don't you wake your daughter up when she sleeps on your bed?
"Go sleep in your room." You do that, right?
- She was sleeping there, first. - Right, she was there first.
- Is that okay? - I tell her to go to her own bed.
- "Hey, go to your bed." - Exactly, so why do you say that?
You are doing a bad job at not telling them what they shouldn't do.
- Also, you should complement them when they do something good. - "Stop."
They don't know any of this.
- They've just become rude dogs. - Dong-yeob was talking,
but she was too busy doing this to listen.
- She was doing this. - We shouldn't be worried about training the dogs.
I feel like someone needs to come in...
and correct your thoughts on your daughter and dogs.
I think someone needs to help correct your thoughts on these two.
- Is there anything nice that you do for your daughter? - Right.
Something that you only do for her and not the dogs.
Yes. I take her out to have a meal and we also watch movies together.
I always take her and do things that she wants to do.
Have you ever asked her to go somewhere, first?
Of course. I do whatever she asks of me.
- Does she? - No.
- Then? - She only takes me to places that she wants to go to.
You only go to places that your mom wants to go?
Like where? Can you give us an example?
I really wanted to go to the Military Culture Festival.
So, I kept begging her to take me.
Mom said that she was tired and told me we'd go next time.
Then the next day,
my mom said she wanted to go to the Pet Festival.
- A pet festival. - A dog festival.
She purposefully dragged me to the festival.
The Military Culture Festival happens every year.
We had already gone the year before.
- Is that so? - We can go next year.
What about the Pet Festival?
They don't hold it in Daejeon often, so...
- I wanted to see if there was anything I could get for these two. - Daejeon.
Ma'am,
you knew that Jeong-yeon didn't want to go, right?
But it's great.
There are other dogs and pretty dogs, too.
(Is her life only filled with dogs?)
Jeong-yeon's cousin, who knows them both, has come with them today.
She knows the situation, so let's talk to her.
- Hello. - Are you Jeong-yeon's cousin?
- Put the microphone in your other hand. - Use your other hand.
- Yes, like that. - She looks worn out.
She's been holding the dog this whole time.
You do actually look tired.
Could you talk louder?
Sa-rang is heavy. I think she is unique.
When I was in elementary school, I went to visit her.
I closed the door on the master bedroom with some force.
- Mi-so's front paw was in the doorway when it happened. - Gosh.
She told me that this happened because I was careless.
That's why his front paw got stuck in the door way.
She scolded me because of that.
I was shocked back then but she also called my mom.
She said that she wouldn't let me come to the house.
She said that I was a careless girl.
(Don't come back!)
- I felt really sad about that. - Didn't you visit their home again?
- I did... - It's always on the back of your mind, right?
- I can't seem to be able to close the doors. - Right.
It's trauma.
- That's understandable. - She developed a trauma.
Sa-rang was curled up...
and she looked really pretty so I went to touch her.
I went up to her, but she bit me right here when I got close.
- She has a scar here. - Where?
- Right here. - Here.
- It's a small one. - He bit you?
It's small so that's a relief.
- It hurt and I was sad so I was crying but Mom just said,
"Sa-rang, don't bite." That's all.
You should've scolded the dog.
I asked Mom to put a salve on it...
She should put that on you.
She just said, "You can do that by yourself."
So, I put it on my own. That's why I have a scar.
- Goodness me. - Why didn't you...
- The dog is the one who bit her. - Why did you act like that?
He doesn't bite you as long you don't bother him.
- All she needs to do is not look at him. - She's taking the dog's side.
I said, "Why did you stare at her and then get bitten?"
The important thing is that she got bit.
- It hurts. - She's grown-up.
Yoo-jung is right.
- She got bitten. - Right.
- You should treat her wounds. - Right.
She has a scar.
- I told her to put the salve on. - Right.
- I told her to put it on. - What are you doing?
- You should put medicine on her. - I told her to do it.
Hold on, Ma'am.
It's not like she only get bitten once or twice.
Then, you should discipline the dogs more.
- You should discipline them. - You should stop them from biting her.
You should be disciplining the dogs.
She is family.
- I would've hit you if you were a man. - She shouldn't stare like that.
She could've just said that he was pretty.
Why do you stare at the baby like this? He doesn't like it.
- They don't bit as long as you don't stare. - Do they bite you?
- I cut their hair for them. - Okay.
When I make a mistake while I do it, they bite me.
That's my fault.
That's my fault so it's okay to be bitten.
- It's okay? - Yes.
This is a serious problem.
You deserved to be bitten.
You need to give them training.
This can be fixed. In the past, I saw this dog...
who was obsessed with this dog.
He would bite anyone that touched his ball.
But once a specialist came in, this bad habit was instantly solved.
- How did he do it? - He threw several hundred balls so he got confused.
(Confused)
I'm not kidding.
The dog didn't know where to look.
Ma'am, haven't you ever thought that the dogs might need training?
They are still babies.
Do I really need to scold them?
Is it because you don't want to see...
the dogs being trained?
I don't mind scolding them myself.
But I don't like it when other people scold them.
I really don't want to see that.
- Is that so? - Yes. That's why I don't like it when Jeong-yeon scolds them.
I'd rather tell them gently.
They are younger so she could speak to them in a more gentle way.
"Hey, don't do that." I really...
don't understand why she is like that.
Ma'am, your words are very easy to misunderstand.
You say that they are sisters and brothers.
But you never scold them for not treating their sister with respect.
You only tell Jeong-yeon off, that's why she feels this is unfair.
You need to teach them to get along with other people.
I know that your words aren't wrong.
But Jeong-yeon is able to speak.
She can express her thoughts and feelings.
- They can say "Mom" as well. - These two...
- That's right. They can say "Mom." - They said "Mom."
What I don't like about this is...
sometimes she says you need to treat them as people.
She brings up a dog's rights.
But when she is at a disadvantage she says that they are dogs.
She always has a way out.
Jeong-yeon, how does this make you feel?
How important do you think you are to your mother?
I'm not as important as the dogs to her.
- This is how she feels. - I mean...
(Feeling pity)
- "They are sleeping, go sleep somewhere else." - Go where?
"Go away. He doesn't want to look at you."
How do you think you will feel if your mother doesn't change?
I'm worried when I hit puberty,
that I won't speak to her.
- I see. - She would close herself off.
- When puberty hits. - It's that kind of situation.
I also feel like...
Jeong-yeon is starting to hit puberty.
- That's why I feel like she is complaining like this. - That's not it.
- No, ma'am. That's not it. - I heard...
that you have to discipline them.
People tell me if I don't discipline her now, I won't be able to later.
- The child? - Yes, I heard I have to teach her before its too late.
- Why would you discipline her? - You should be disciplining the dogs.
Ma'am, by any chance,
has Jeong-yeon done something to make you feel sad?
- Is that why you are acting like this? - Could that be it?
- Jeong-yeon doesn't get to spend a lot of time with her dad. - Okay.
So, I got these dogs just in case she felt lonely.
But suddenly,
she started to leave me by myself and go out.
She went to hang out with her friends.
So, I'm always alone with these two.
I can't help but care about these two.
Ma'am, even though Jeong-yeon was young, did a part of you depend on her?
I still do. I can't live without Jeong-yeon.
- Of course. - I can't live with these two, either.
I always say, "I love you" when I hang up.
When I say that, she just hangs up.
So, I just stop trying as well.
- Once... - Why are you fighting with your daughter?
Once I tried to hold her when we were sleeping together.
She said it was too hot and told me to go away.
But dogs come to you even when you tell them not to.
They give off a good feeling and make you feel warm but with her...
So, one way you could look at this is...
the mother is feeling betrayed. Just a little, right?
I'm scared, honestly.
- Are you scared? - Yes.
- I'm scared that I will be left alone. - I see.
Yes. We can understand your feelings.
- He's right. - Are your mother still alive?
- No, she's not. - I see.
- Did she pass away when you were young? - Yes, when I was six.
- She passed when you were a child? - Yes.
(Now she became a mom and is raising her daughter on her own.)
(Maybe she got scared of growing apart from anyone.)
- Do you admit it, too? - Gosh.
Do you admit that you could have made her feel like that?
(And now)
Are you sad? Do you feel bad for her?
What do you think when she said she wanted to be with you and talk with you?
I also think...
it would have been nice if she told you about her feelings.
Has she told you, "I feel sad because of you."
"Can you spend time with me?"
- I thought so. She kept it to herself. - They didn't talked.
Maybe it's because you think your daughter is your friend.
- Hold up. - Jeong-yeon is...
shedding tears right now. What does this mean, Jeong-yeon?
I'm so sorry.
She's so nice.
(The considerate daughter says sorry to her mother.)
Your mom is crying, too.
- I think she's sorry, too. - This could totally happen.
- Because your daughter... - Dogs can't cry for you, right?
I'll try to listen to you from now on.
(She's such a thoughtful daughter.)
I also hope you listen when I talk about my daily life or my friends.
- Yes. - I hope you listen to my stories, too.
- I listened to the song, "A Wonderful Day in October." - Yes.
- I learned the song in school. - I see.
I wanted to play the song with a recorder.
- But Mom said... - What did she say?
It made Sa-rang bark, so I should stop it.
- She said that. - Did she?
- You wanted to play it for her. - She stopped you.
- She yelled at me. - She yelled at you?
So I put the recorder back in.
(Someone next to her can't stop crying.)
Is she your daughter, Yoo-jung?
- Look at her. - She cries so much.
When Sa-rang hears piano or guitar sounds,
or when he hears music,
he seems like he hates it.
He groans when he hears music.
- That's him singing. - Wasn't he enjoying the music?
So I said, "My baby hates it. Why do you keep doing that?"
- "Go outside." - Sa-rang has to go out in that case.
If she plays the recorder today,
are you willing to listen until it ends?
(Will you listen to her play today?)
- Play it. - Don't say like that. Could you be softer?
I'll listen to you play.
- She's playing now. - Go on.
Don't look at me, please.
Let's give it up for her.
(Go for it, Jeong-yeon.)
(Mom, are you listening?)
(She's concentrating for the first time.)
(Jeong-yeon wanted her mom to hear this so much.)
(How many times would have she practiced with her little fingers?)
(The playing continues.)
(He's not barking.)
- She is so cute. - She's good.
(You were great, Jeong-yeon.)
- The dog's not barking at all. - He's right.
- He's still. - He likes the recorder.
What do you think about your daughter's playing?
She really wanted you to hear this.
- You're really good. Good job. - Yes.
- Tell her she's good. - You did a good job, baby.
- That sounds better now. - Yes.
- She can do better. - When you introduced Mi-so and Sa-rang,
you told us all the details about them.
It seems like you haven't complimented Jeong-yeon much.
Jeong-yeon is good at so many things.
- She can dance well. She's also doing well at school. - I see.
On my birthday, though it was instant food,
- she made me seaweed soup for breakfast. - Wow.
- She did well. - She's a good kid.
- It doesn't matter it was instant food. - One time, when I said I was tired,
- she made rice balls and wrote a letter for me. - My goodness.
I know she is a good daughter. But it's hard to compliment her everyday.
It's hard for me to say things like, "You did very good."
You've never heard things like that yourself.
So you don't know what to say to her daughter.
- It's just hard. - But if you don't say nice things to her,
- Yes. - It will be also hard for Jeong-yeon to say those things.
Then, she will be a person who can't compliment forever.
Start giving her compliments from now.
- Take up the courage and start yourself. - Right.
I really didn't know she was feeling that sad about my behaviors.
I never did those things because I hate her.
- Of course you don't hate her. - Yes.
- Of course we know that. - If I ever hurt her feelings, I'm so sorry, too.
- I am. - You have to express your love.
- Yes. - Jeong-yeon, do you have anything to say to your mom?
I'll be a better daughter from now on.
I'll be good so that I deserve to hear compliments from you.
(I'll be a daughter who can earn compliments from you.)
Say to her, "I want your love."
I want you love, Mom.
(I want to be loved by you, Mom.)
(Please be good to her.)
Let's hear what you think about her story.
I think it's definitely an issue.
I felt a little uncomfortable from the start.
You called the dogs "babies,"
while calling her just by her name.
- That was on my nerves the whole time. - Yes.
I think it can be a serious issue considering her age.
(Blank)
- Yoo-jung? - Yes.
You seem so engrossed in the story.
- She's almost Jeong-yeon's mother now. - Have you felt the same?
Have someone favored others over you?
I also think this is an issue.
I'm the youngest in my family.
- I see. - I don't think I was loved that much by my parents.
So I've had resentment all the time.
- I see. - So I think, even between parents and kids, between a family,
you can't see love if you don't express it.
You misunderstand each other.
After today, I hope...
you start to care about her a little more.
If you think it's an issue for our guest, press the button.
What does the audience think?
It ends after 5, 4,
3, 2, 1.
It's done.
After hearing what Jeong-yeon said, do you have anything to tell her?
I love you, Jeong-yeon.
I know you're a good kid. I know that.
- Okay? - Let's list your priorities once again.
I want to see how much you're trying to change.
It's from me, Jeong-yeon,
Mi-so, and Sa-rang.
Whose mom are you?
I'm Jeong-yeon's mom.
Okay, I've got it. You feel better now, right?
(Jeong-yeon smiles at last.)
Let's see how many votes this issue got.
(The result)
How many votes did "Please Look at Me" get?
- The last number is 4. - Is it 154 votes?
(Will she get more than 100 votes?)
It's 144 votes.
You've got many votes.
(She got 144 votes, currently ranked at first.)
(I'll be a better mom.)
This story is titled "My Wife Loves Water." I'm a husband in my thirties,
who suffers from my wife's desire.
From she wakes up until she goes to bed,
she wants this dozens of times a day.
Honey... Oh, she has an accent.
- Is it an accent from Gyeongsang Province? - Yes.
Honey, I can't stand it anymore.
Give it to me now.
Gosh, how many times you have to have it?
Just try to suppress it.
I can't suppress it.
I want it now.
Give me some water, please. I'm dying of thirst.
She wanted water?
Don't be surprised, everyone.
The recommended daily intake of water is 2 liters.
But my wife drinks water a day...
as much as 10 liters.
- Wow. - Is she a dehumidifier?
- My goodness. - She's almost a dehumidifier.
How much is 10 liters?
Honey, why are you buzzing around in the middle of the night?
Did I wake you up? I drank so much water.
So I've been to the toilet.
I've become better at accents.
(Dong-yeob is proud of himself.)
- He's feeling good. - Because of her drinking water, I wake up every 1 or 2 hours.
When I try to set a romantic mood, it's always spoiled because of her.
Honey, I think I caught I cold. I can't stop coughing.
That's because you don't drink water enough. Go and have water.
My wife thinks that water is a cure to everything.
She also drank too much water during her pregnancy.
The doctor said to her, "You drank too much water."
- "Your blood is too thin." - Does it happen?
- "You're addicted to water." - Too much water can be bad.
"Try to have less water."
Regardless of the doctor's opinion, she drinks water from a two-liter-bottle again.
How can I make her stop drinking water?
It's a strange issue.
- She drinks 10 liters? - Wow.
- How much water you drink a day? - How about you, Ken?
- I sing all the time, so I drink about one liter. - I see.
It's still a lot of water.
- Yes. I have about one liter. - I drink...
more than 1.5 liter.
- I see. - I constantly drink it.
Isn't the water cooler jug 10 liters?
- It's almost 10 liters. - Is it?
- She drinks the whole bottle a day? - The biggest jug might be 12 liters or so.
It means she drinks the whole bottle for the water cooler a day.
Yes, that's right.
Let's hear more from the husband.
Let's bring out our guest.
(Who is the guest suffering from his water addict wife?)
(Choi Gyeong-cheol)
(Welcome.)
You seem like you've also had a lot of water.
- He has a great skin. - He does.
- Look at him. - I agree.
I think I was born with it.
You were born with it? I'm sorry.
Does she really drinks 10 liters of water a day?
- Does she? - Yes, 10 liters is a piece of cake to her.
- She even drinks more sometimes. - Wow.
She drinks water from two-liter bottles.
She empties 5 or 6 of them a day. We have to take the trash out everyday.
- We spent so much on water, so I bought a purifier for her. - Yes.
But she doesn't only drink water from the purifier.
She also drinks from the bottles.
You'd think, "How much can you spend on water?"
We spend more than 200 dollars a month.
- You spend that much just on water? - My goodness.
- It's too much. - You spend 200 dollars on water?
People carry a 0.5-liter-bottle when they go out.
She proudly carries a two-liter-bottle.
How about you? Do you drink water not much?
- Or do you also drink a lot? - I don't drink much water.
- I drink... - How much do you drink a day?
- about one liter. Because of that, my wife always nags me. - It's the right amount.
No matter my throat, my stomach, or my head hurts,
she always says, "It's because you drink not enough water."
- When she's sick, does she drink water and do nothing else? - When she's sick...
- She had a sinus cold once. - She has to take medicine, then.
The doctor told her to drink a lot of hot water.
- She's pregnant, so she can't take medicine. - I see.
- She can't. - So she's advised to drink hot water.
She says that hot water makes her feel stuffy.
- She only drinks cold water. - Does she?
She keeps drinking cold water.
Her cold becomes worse because of cold water.
- That's not good. - From the story you wrote,
I read she spoiled the mood even when you tried to be intimate.
I think it's ridiculous to try to drink water even then.
When we were just married, I tried to set the mood.
When I say, "Come here."
- She says, "Wait a minute, I'm thirsty. I have to drink some water." - I see.
Then we start to set the mood again,
she says, "I had too much water. I have to go to the toilet."
This goes on and on.
- You can't do nothing if she stops again and again. - You're right.
So I say, "That's it. I'm not doing it." Then I turn back and sleep.
- You say "That's it." - How about you give water through a pipe or something?
- I don’t want to go that far. - It's like she's taking the IV injection.
Do you have any children?
- Yes, I have a daughter. - I see.
- There's one more coming. - Yes.
- If you couldn't set the mood, how did you make a child? - How did you do it?
I watched for slim chances.
- You went for it between water drinkings. - I'm good at taking those chances.
- How is it when you travel? - When we travel...
- Let's hear about that. - She drinks water a lot, so she goes to the toilet often.
- Right. - We have to stop at every service station.
There's a schedule we already planned.
- We've never been on time. We are always 30 or 40 minutes late. - Wow.
- She can hold in a lot. - You could have a day or two like that in your life.
- You can't believe it's all coming from you. - You have a day like that, right?
- It won't stop. - Yes.
- It must be bad for your health. - You get scared that it will never stop.
- You could feel that way once or twice in your life. - I have felt that.
I took the first place at a service station once.
- Did you? - He means the one...
- where you aim for the mark. - I see.
- I've heard... - It's too much detail.
- someone erased the mark. - What?
- The mark was erased? - The flow was too strong.
- I've heard that someone erased it. - Don't talk about yourself.
- Right, I shouldn't talk about myself. - You have to hide it well.
- What are they doing? - It's so cheesy.
- Men always do that. - Is it a skit?
- Did you write a skit? - That's what I'm saying.
Why are you doing a skit by yourselves?
(They are a comedian duo.)
Let's meet the wife...
- who drinks 10 liters a day. - It's her.
- She brought water. - I see.
- Hello. - Hello.
Hello.
(She is the wife of our guest.)
Do you really drink 10 liters a day?
Yes, I do.
- Wow. - You do?
- It's amazing. - Do you measure 10 liters precisely?
- He said she could drink more. - Do you aim for 10 liters?
I don't aim for it. I just constantly drink water.
Isn't it hard to have that much water?
- It was hard at first. - Yes.
I've got used to it now.
- It's hard not to drink water now. - How many tons does she drink a year?
We've put the water bottles beside her...
so that she can drink as much as she want.
We gave her the bottles of natural water.
- She drinks about 20 of those a day. - That's right.
She's already emptied three bottles or so. How many bottles did you drink?
- I drank five bottles. - You already drank five?
(One hour before the shooting)
(The staff delivered water to the waiting room.)
(The wife picked up a bottle as soon as she gets them.)
(She started to drink water with her friends.)
(She won't stop drinking.)
(She didn't stop when she was talking with the writers.)
(She finished a bottle.)
(She even brought water by herself.)
(She drank and drank.)
(She also drank soft drink all at once.)
(When she went outside,)
(she made sure she had the water bottle.)
- Are we stopping you from drinking water now? - Do you need water now?
- Are we? - I have to take a sip now.
- Then have it. - It's okay, have some.
Help yourself.
(Please help yourself.)
- We usually stop at this point. - Wow.
- Look at her. - My goodness.
You don't have to overdo yourself.
(She emptied two-thirds of the bottle at once.)
- There's only one-third of the bottle left. - She drinks a lot of water.
- She drinks a lot at once. - Do you feel better now?
- Yes, I do. - How long does it take until you have another sip?
- It's amazing. - It takes about 10 or 15 minutes.
- You said 10 minutes? - Yes.
What was your largest intake a day?
When I got really angry and frustrated,
- I drank more than half of a two-liter-bottle at once. - Wow.
- You've had one liter of water at once. - Yes, I did.
Do you change when you don't get enough water? Do you get angry?
She becomes a bit sensitive.
I could just ask her what we are having for dinner.
But she responds, "Have whatever I'm serving you."
When I get worried she drinks so much water,
I say half in joke, "Stop drinking water."
- She would say, "Why? It's none of your business." - Are you the same age?
She's one year older than me.
- Wow. - Is she?
- She's an older woman. - I see.
When I don't get enough water, my mouth...
gets dry like I finished a 100-meter dash.
- Your mouth becomes white with the dried saliva, right? - Goodness.
- You're saying you feel like that? - My mouth becomes like that.
Do you prefer a certain kind of water? I've heard from the staff.
Water tastes different depending on its kind.
- It also smells different. - She's right.
- Is it? - It's different.
- Some kind of water tastes sweet. - My favorite is the one from Je-something.
- What did you say? - I said Je-something.
- You mean Jeju Island? - You can say Jeju Island on television.
(I see.)
- You mean the water brand from Jeju Island. - Yes.
Can you guess the kind of water when you have it?
When I used to get sensitive and drink a lot of water,
- I could totally guess it. - Wow.
- You guessed all the brands? - Yes.
- I could guess the brand. - We prepared a various brands of water.
- Did you? - It's amazing.
We'll have a blind test with your eyes covered.
The staff prepared four brands of water.
- Could she guess it? - Come out here to the front.
(Come to the front, please.)
- She has an amazing skin. - She does.
Let's start.
(Can she pick out her favorite?)
- It's amazing. - This is water number one.
- It's water number one. - Yes.
Water number one.
- Have as much as you want. - Yes.
- She's drinking water number two. - It's water number two.
It's like a sommelier exam.
(Can she distinguish the taste?)
- Wow. - I think she knows.
- It's water number three. - She's being very careful.
- It's like she's tasting wine. - It's from 1937.
- She's like a sommelier. - You're right.
She's a water sommelier.
(She's a sommelier for water.)
- I think she can guess it. - Will she find it?
Will she find it?
(She only took a sip of each water brand.)
(Can she pick out her favorite among these?)
- What would be the result? - I think it's water number four.
- What? - Do you think it's water number four?
Do you think it's your favorite?
- You think it's the water from Jeju. - Yes.
Does it taste different from other cups of water?
This one tastes...
- a bit oily. - How about number three?
- Did you said oily? - Water can taste oily?
- Wait a minute. - This water tastes oily?
- Give me that. - Is it oily?
- Does it taste oily? - I want a sip, too.
This one is the water from Jeju.
- Its aftertaste is sweet. - No, you could be wrong.
I think the aftertaste is a bit sweet.
- It's sweet. - What?
- This one's sweet. - It tastes sweet at the end.
- It's ridiculous. - What are you talking about?
- I think you're just saying that. - No, it's really sweet.
My goodness, it's so sweet.
(Chan-woo's joking.)
- This tastes bland. - It's so sweet that my head hurts.
- This is bland? - It is.
My head hurts with all the sweetness.
- It tastes different. - I think the difference between number 3 and four is...
the temperature.
- No, that's not it. - Number four is a little colder and number three is tepid.
- That's why it tastes different. - No, it tastes oily.
Let's see the brand of the water number one.
The water number one is...
(Which brand the water number one is?)
- Is it water from a purifier? - It's water from a purifier.
- That's right. - The number one is water from a purifier.
That one tasted a bit like tap water, too.
- It did? - Let's see.
- What's the number two? - This one is...
(Which brand the number two is?)
- It's from a brand starts with E? - I see.
- We drink this all the time. - Yes.
- It's not her favorite. - What is the number three?
(The number three and number four are left now.)
(Will the number four be the water from Jeju just like she guessed?)
Isn't the third one her favorite?
What is the oily one?
- It's Arisu. - I see.
- She said it tastes oily. - She got it right then.
- Really? - Why did you pick the fourth one?
- This tastes much sweeter. - Does it?
- It was sweet. - I agree.
- Let me see what it is. - She actually got the right one.
- My goodness. - Wow.
(She chose the water from Jeju.)
- It's unbelievable. - Wow.
- She got it right. - It's amazing.
- It did taste sweet. - I can't believe it.
I thought you'd never distinguish the tastes. So I asked the staff...
- to prepare the test. - I see.
- But you were right. - She got it right.
- Wow. - She's certainly a water expert.
- She's a water expert. - She's the best water expert there is.
She's the best water expert.
If you like water that much,
you could just enjoy it yourself. Your husband is having quite a lot of water.
- Yes. - Isn't one liter enough?
If you drink a lot of water, your skin clears up.
You don't have constipation, you know.
- Really? - You don't have constipation?
- Yes, I don't. - Congratulations.
I heard before that you often go to the toilet in the middle of the night.
- Of course she does. - How often do you go to the toilet?
- I haven't counted it. - Yes.
- I have to go every 1 hour or 1 and a half hour. - What?
One day is 24 hours, so you go to the toilet about 20 times a day.
Yes, I think so.
- Doesn't it bother you? - I have a question.
- You go to the toilet so often. - Yes.
- Haven't you got bothered and tried to drink less water? - Right.
- I've thought about that, and I've tried to drink less water. - Yes.
I've tried that, but it only makes me thirstier.
- If I have only half a sip of water, - Wow.
I drink the whole bottle at once next time.
- I'm worried that she might have some health issues. - Right.
I saw this on the news.
If you drink more than the recommended amount of water,
All of the sodium will be washed out of your body and that could be dangerous.
- After the examination, they said her blood is very thin. - That would be a worry.
That's a worry but she is also pregnant.
Since I'm pregnant, I told the doctor that I drink a lot of water...
and I'm worried whether this is bad for the baby.
I asked the doctor a lot of questions.
The doctor said the baby was very healthy.
- That's a relief. - The doctor said I should check with a neurologist as well.
So I got an examination.
The specialist said that the baby was fine.
Are there times when you do feel unwell?
During the winter,
when you drink cold water, your body gets colder, right?
Once, my whole body...
was shaking so much. I couldn't control it.
- You had a chill? - Yes.
For both men and women they say tepid water is the best. This is especially...
true for women. When you drink cold water, you become more thirsty.
I have heard that many times before.
I get more stressed if I don't drink.
- When that happens, I drink more. - I see, it's better to drink then get stressed.
Did you have a trauma when you were young about not being able to drink water?
No, there was nothing like that. About nine years ago...
my father passed away suddenly.
He passed away due to diabetic complications.
His throat was in a bad shape...
so he passed away while coughing up blood.
I saw him pass away.
That situation made me feel so frustrated...
and it felt like my heart was going to break.
You can't drink alcohol in a situation like that, right?
There was cold water next to me so I drank that.
- It felt like it was cooling me down. - I think I know the feeling.
- Is that when you started to drink so much? - Yes, that was the beginning.
Back then, you must have felt frustrated...
and it must have felt like there was nothing you could do.
So back then, you drank a lot of water for that reason,
is there anything that is making you feel frustrated these days?
I want to rely on my husband,
and so there is a part of me that wants him to be more assertive.
Your husband doesn't do that?
- Moving houses is a big decision in life, right? - Yes.
I want to discuss decisions with him, but when we do,
he just nods and acts like this.
That's why I don't want to discuss decisions with him.
When we went to buy basketball shoes,
normally when men go shopping,
- they finish up after 30 minutes, right? - I only take 5 minutes.
He tries all the different brands. He has to try them all.
- He's one of those types. - He has to try them all on.
- After he decides on a brand, - He makes it so difficult,
he then agonizes about which size to buy.
He agonizes about that in the store for an hour.
In the end I had to tell him to get the bigger ones. That's when he bought them.
After he bought them and we had been walking for about 30 minutes,
when he suddenly said he had a favor.
- I asked him what it was. - Change the size?
He wanted me to cancel the purchase.
- Why did he say that? - He didn't think it was the right shoes for him.
So, you would like your husband to be more assertive...
and driven? Would that be better?
- If he was like that, I wouldn't be frustrated. - She'd be less frustrated.
I would drink less water because I wouldn't be frustrated.
Then...
How long did you agonize about sending your issue to our show?
How long?
- You have a point. - How long?
Our program has been airing for almost six years,
you weren't agonizing for that long, right?
- Tell us. - About three years?
About three years?
Is that true?
- Did you really agonize about this for three years? - I need to drink.
- Men don't know how frustrating that is. - "My goal, send in issue to Hello."
I don't think that I am that indecisive.
But from the story we heard...
If I ask, "Do you want to eat jajangmyeon?"
- He just does this. - He does say no?
"Then how about shabu-shabu?"
(He says no instead of deciding.)
You're not being considerate.
When you cook for him at home,
does he eat everything you make for him without complaints?
No.
- She sighed. - That was a very long sigh.
Shouldn't you be sitting here instead?
Carrots, water parsley, fish, mackerel,
- He doesn't eat it? - and oysters. He won't eat them.
He will also eat only seaweed from a certain type of family.
Wouldn't it be easier to cook, then? You don't have to think about it too much.
If I only cook that, he asks me why there aren't any new side dishes?
- He asks me for other side dishes. - He's very immature.
- He is immature, right? - Yes.
What other immature things does he do?
If we have to go to a celebratory festival,
- we have to go to those events, right? - Yes, of course.
But my husband says, "Why do we have to go?"
- He doesn't have any common sense. - Just send them a money gift.
So, he doesn't...
act like a grown up.
- He doesn't know, yet. - Right.
You should be more aggressive and be decisive.
When she is deliberating, you should just decide.
If a part of you is like that, than woman...
- would like that. Your wife would like that as well. - You should pull her to you.
Don't do it there, do it here.
- Right. - Right.
She might want a tough and assertive man, right?
Yes, I would like that very much.
In our family, I'm the one who is more assertive.
My goodness!
He deliberated about this for three years.
- But the tables have turned. - Exactly, whose issue are we listening to?
- I know. I think they need to switch seats. - I know.
The person next to you is your friend, right? Hello.
- Hello. - Yes.
(The wife's friend)
From a third person's point of view, what do you think?
- She drinks a lot. I drink about four liters a day.
- Did you say four? - A day?
- She drinks a lot, too. - Earlier, when she said...
We actually fought a couple of times because of water.
- Why would you fight? - You both drink a lot. Why would you fight?
Woman go to sauna a lot, right?
- Yes, women do. - You'd order something to drink as well, right?
Normally we drink about 3 or 4 bottles at the sauna.
"There only a little left." We'd fight over who would drink it.
- You fought over water? - Yes.
Then as her friend, do you believe that she drinks a lot of water...
because she likes drinking water or...
is it because of her husband? What do you think?
I think it's because she like water.
It has nothing to do with her husband?
- She just likes water. - This has nothing to do with her husband.
Her reasoning has no basis.
We interviewed them for this broadcast,
and we heard that you told the crew...
- that there was something you wanted to say to her. - Yes, there is.
- My friend has a small kettle at home. - What did she say?
- She said kettle. - She saw my kettle at home and said,
"Lend it to me."
I said okay. She took it,
and she still hasn't returned it.
Are you asking her to return the kettle?
- Yes, I want to drink boiled water, too. - You wanted to ask her for it back?
- Yes. - Tell her yourself.
- Can you give me back my kettle? - No.
- She said no. - Why won't you give that back to her? Is it big?
Her kettle can hold about four liters. It's huge.
- What kind of kettle is that? - My kettle can only hold two liters.
- You can just buy one. - You can ask where she bought it.
You can't buy a kettle like that anymore.
- I see. It's one of those old ones. - The really big ones.
- Yes, the really big ones. - The ones we put by the fire.
- Yes, those ones. - That would be huge.
You can rarely see those ones.
Is there anything that your friend did that made you sad?
She doesn't drink purified and always boils her water.
- She boils it with bell flowers. - That would be lovely.
- Yes, the water is delicious. - It would be.
I visited her at her home.
I asked if she had water and she said she didn't have any.
She said she didn't have any so I just drank purified water.
When I turned around,
she wasn't in the room. She was outside in the balcony.
She was drinking the boiled water...
by herself.
She did it secretly?
- Yes secretly. - She was drinking the water secretly.
- She's very cute. - Well, it's not like you drink 1 or 2 cups.
You drink about four liters.
She's just greedy about water.
I don't think she could stop this addiction by herself.
Haven't you talked with the people close to you...
about working together?
As she told you, due to my father-in-law,
she has a lot of emotional scars inside of her.
She was like that even when we were dating, so even though...
I can't be of much help...
but I wanted to help,
so I worked hard to make her laugh.
Whenever she has something on her mind,
she won't talk about it.
You have your own burden of being the head of the family.
Since I know this, I don't want to burden you with my own worries.
- I don't want to add to his burden. - That is amazing.
How would your husband have to act...
for you to stop drinking so much water?
Well, I'm at home alone...
for long periods of time,
so I tend to drink a lot of water in moments like that.
If we could go outside for a walk...
just once around the block,
then I think the amount of water I drink will decrease.
I would like him to help me with that.
That would be one way.
- If you could go on a walk with her around the neighborhood, - Right.
She would drink less,
- It would be good for you, too. - and it would be good for you, too.
- It'd be hard to do that every day. - Yes, that would be too much.
Then, how about deciding on the day that you will do this.
- Will you do it every second day? - Right.
How about 2 or 3 times a week?
- I think 2 or 3 days is fine. - That's what she wants.
- She doesn't mean every day. - Ma'am, are you satisfied with that?
We'll start off with 2 or 3 times a day...
and then later on we can move on to doing it every day.
I think that's what we need to do.
If you have any final things you would like to say, please tell her.
If you have something on your mind, even though I might not be able to help,
I can still listen to it, right?
I'll listen and we can try and figure it out together.
Please just try and drink as much as most people.
If that is too much, try and drink about a quarter less than before.
I'd be happy if you could restrict yourself to five liters a day.
Let's try and continue to live a happy life together.
I love you.
Now, shall we start off with Ken?
I think it's an issue for both of them.
If she can receive feedback like this with an open mind,
- then I don't think it's a worry. - It's not a worry.
- I also don't think this is a worry. - Hurry up and find them a solution.
Even if it's only once,
just let her drink as much water as she wants.
"I will try to change." When she says that...
- then you can have a more positive change. - Right.
- You can make a change. - You start to understand.
- You can consider each other's feelings. - Okay.
If you think it's an issue for our guest, press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
The voting ends in 5, 4,
3, 2,
1. It's done.
Do you have anything to say to him?
I'm grateful that you're always on my side.
Thank you for giving great support for our family.
I'll try to have less water from now on.
Let's walk together side by side. I love you.
- That's nice. - Yes.
Before we see the result,
can you show us how many bottles are in the container?
- Shall I go over there and help her? - Yes.
Let's count all together.
One.
Two.
Three.
Four.
Five.
Six.
- Seven. - She emptied seven bottles.
- I can't have that much for a whole day. - Wow.
Let's see how many votes this issue got.
Show us the result of "My Wife Loves Water."
How many people would have voted for this issue?
Did it get more than a hundred?
(Will this issue win today?)
- It got 73 votes. - It's good.
(The issue got 73 votes.)
Would you take on the doctor’s role in this story?
- Thank you. - Yes.
Have you ever had a doctor's role in your acting career?
- No, I haven't. - It's your first?
- Yes. - Tae-joon, come over here.
- Okay. - Come over here.
This one's titled "My Life Is So Hard."
Hello. I'm the unluckiest person in the world.
I'm a 70-year-old mother.
Whenever I see my son, I get so angry and frustrated.
"Are you drinking again?"
"I told you to stop drinking."
"I'll quit drinking tomorrow."
"I'm so sick of this."
"If you're going to drink until you die, eat dog poop and die right now."
Did she say "dog poop?"
- She uses strong words. - Yes.
- It's hard to eat dog poop. - After he got divorced, he drinks all the time.
"Grandma, Dad is drunk again. He's sleeping in the living room."
"He is curled up in here again."
"Wake up! Sleep in your room!"
"Grandma, Dad yells and gets mad at us again."
"You brat, how dare you lose your temper like that."
"Stop harassing your child."
"Leave the kids to sleep and eat dog poop and die."
- She said that again. - I don't know what I did wrong in my past life.
I think it's my destiny to clean up the mess he made.
I got really upset when I went to the hospital with him.
"Your liver index is much higher than others."
"I'll admit you right away."
- You'll get a doctor's role soon. - Good voice.
- You were great. - Do it again.
- One more time. - "Your liver index...
- is much higher than others." - Look,
not every doctor has that kind of voice.
- "I'll admit you right away." - It's a bit cheesy.
My son stayed in the hospital for eight days for alcoholic hepatitis.
The next day he came home, he started drinking again.
He's only in his forties. He has a bright future.
I don't know why he has become such a loser.
Please help me so that my son can get it together.
- Yes. - It's a major issue.
(Son, please stop drinking.)
- Do you drink a lot, Ken? - How much soju do you drink?
- I don't drink often, but... - Yes.
I drink about 3 and a half or 4 bottles.
- Really? - You drink a lot.
- You're a heavy drinker. - I think alcohol is my enemy.
- Why? - All my relatives...
- got sick because of drinking. - I see.
- They got sick? - Some of them passed away.
- I have so many bad memories on drinking. - I see.
- You've seen much since you were young. - Yes, I have.
Our guest is a 70-year-old mother worried about her son, who drinks all the time.
- Let's bring out our guest. Come on out. - Welcome.
(Who is the 70-year-old guest worried about her son, who drinks all the time?)
(Kim Sun-deok)
(Welcome)
- She is beautiful. - Yes.
Introduce yourself, please.
- I'm Kim Sun-deok from Daejeon. - Welcome.
(She is beautiful.)
How much your son drinks?
- He drinks too much. He drinks every day. - Gosh.
- He drinks in front of the TV at the living room, - I see.
- watching the television. - Does he?
- He drinks at home. - He usually drinks 2 or 3 bottles of soju.
He usually drinks 2 or 3 bottles of soju.
- He doesn't drink outside and comes home? - He drinks at home.
- He doesn't drink outside? - Yes.
- It's good that he drinks at home. - You must be less worried.
- It's better than him drinking outside. - At least you can see him drinking.
- Are you living with your son now? - Yes.
After he got divorced, he and my grandson and granddaughter...
- are living together. - I see.
How long it has been since he got divorced?
It's been eight years.
- It's been 8 years? - He's been drinking 2 or 3 bottles a day for 8 years?
- He's been drinking more and more. - I see.
If he drinks 2 or 3 bottles of soju every day,
- his body can't stand it, right? - That's what I'm saying.
Of course his body is suffering.
Actually, his liver index was really high last year.
- He was admitted to the hospital for 8 days. - My goodness.
When he was discharged, the doctor said that if he kept drinking,
- he might get liver cirrhosis, so he should stop drinking. - I see.
He had to quit it then, but he continued to drink.
- I started to think that he might die because of it. - I understand.
- You could be worried. - He could get liver cirrhosis.
- I'm so worried and frustrated about him. - I see your point.
She is having a hard time, but...
him drinking that much means he's suffering, too.
Let's hear from her son. Hello, nice to meet you.
- Hello. - Welcome.
Do you like drinking?
Yes, I do.
Did you also like drinking when you were younger?
- I didn't drink much in my twenties. - Yes.
I drank a bottle of beer a week.
- I started to drink more from 7 years ago, after I got divorced. - I see.
I think it's become an obligatory thing.
- I think it's become an obligatory thing. - It's obligatory to you?
- You mean it's become your habit? - Yes.
- After the divorce, - Yes.
I've become very lonely.
I'm just trying to get comfort from drinking.
That's why I started to depend on it.
- Aren't you worried about your health? - Right.
- Of course I'm worried about my health. - Yes.
Though I've been in the hospital,
I find myself drinking again.
- You could go outside instead of drinking at home. - Gosh.
You could meet friends or have hobbies.
I hardly meet my friends.
You don't meet your friends?
- I see. - Seeing you drinking every day, your children are not worried?
They are.
- They tell me not to drink. - Yes.
I'm like, "No matter what you say, I'm going to drink."
Who takes care of them?
My mom mostly takes care of them.
(His 70-year-old mother raises the children alone.)
Then, have your mother raised your children...
until now? Have you raised them?
- I've raised them since they were around eight. - How old are they now?
- Now they are 14 and 15. - Goodness.
- You did all the work. - It was hard at first.
- You have to do everything other moms do. I have to fix meals. - Of course.
- It's hard. I get tired so often. - I see.
But I think I'm the unluckiest person in the world.
(I'm the unluckiest person in the world.)
When my children were still young, my husband passed away.
My life has been so hard after that.
(She lived though so many hardships on her own.)
- I used to sell wild vegetables in a bucket. I sold them on the street. - Goodness.
- I managed to get through... - Yes.
until now.
- I never knew I'd raise children again at my age. - Gosh.
(Her life has never been comfortable.)
- Hold her hand for her, Yoo-jung. - Yes.
- It's been too hard. - You've suffered so much. That's why you're here.
He could actually die from drinking too much. You must have been so worried.
- I think he could actually die. - You're so welcome here.
(I wish he thinks about his children more.)
Do you see your dad drinking often?
Yes, I see him drinking every day.
- Right. He drinks every day. - I lay down at 11pm...
and slept until 1am until Dad gets drunk.
He wakes me up and I clean up the bottles.
I fall asleep about 30 minutes later.
- This family can't sleep, too. - You can't have a sound sleep.
What else you don't like about Dad drinking?
Sometimes, once a week,
- he scolds me for no reason. - He does?
- How does he scold you? - What does he say?
- He says I don't speak clearly. - He says that suddenly?
He speaks a little bit slow.
- I've tried to correct it since he was younger. - Yes.
You speak slow as well.
- That's gotta be come from you. - Why do you correct him when you're drunk?
- You should tell him when you're sober. - Right.
- You should never scold a child when you're drunk. - He's right.
Did you hate your father sometimes, honestly?
- I never hated him. - Yes.
- I'm worried about him a lot. - Why?
My dad had gastrectomy before.
- My dad had gastrectomy before. - I see.
So I'm worried about his health.
- He's still a kid, but he's worried about Dad. - He had gastrectomy?
- Yes. - When did you get the surgery, sir?
I had it seven years ago.
- You had it seven years ago? - Gosh.
Why did you receive the surgery?
- I've also been drinking a lot then. - Yes.
I think it's because of drinking.
When they had to cut out your stomach...
- It means it's serious. - Did you drink more after the surgery seven years ago?
Yes. After I was discharged,
I wanted to drink.
What do you think makes you keep drinking?
- When I go out and see happy families, - Yes.
I miss the old days so much.
When I feel lonely, I think I've got to drink again.
- Have you thought about marrying again? You're still young. - Yes.
- Have you thought about meeting someone? - I have thought about it.
- I don't know what my children will think about that. - Yes.
They've been already hurt once.
I become much less confident.
I'll ask the children. What do you think...
about him getting married again?
- Please be honest. - Let's say he met a good person.
If Dad likes someone,
I hope he cuts back on the drinking and lives happily with her.
- You're so mature. - Let's hear from the daughter.
- Daughters can be sensitive. - I'm fine if he's happy.
- They love their dad so much. - I'm sorry, but...
There's a lady like Yoo-jung,
and there's a lady like me. Which lady...
would you want your Dad to be with?
They must be so confused.
(They have to make a choice in confusion.)
This one has a lot of money.
- This one has a pretty face. - That one's not that younger than your grandma.
- I could be your grandma's friend. - She's loaded.
Which one would you choose?
(Curious)
- You'd like anyone he likes, right? - Yes.
- Okay. - Son, which one do you choose?
I can be a friend to your grandma.
(Nervous)
I'd like anyone he likes.
What is the father's decision?
- What is the father's decision? - It's come all the way to here.
What is the father's decision?
Okay, son.
Is it Yoo-jung?
I'm sorry I choose Yeong-ja.
Bingo!
(Yeong-ja was chosen.)
Ma'am, see? What man could hate Yoo-jung?
He picked me to show his devotion to you.
Rather than a wife for himself, he wanted to give you a friend.
When you listen to the kids talk,
you can tell that they've been raised well.
- I know. - They have.
I think their grandmother did a really great job in raising them.
They have a kind nature. They have a kind heart.
- They are. - Their dad is the problem.
Are they good students?
Well, to be honest, they are not good students.
Being good at studying isn't everything.
They're just average students.
Would you also like it if your son got remarried?
What do you think of him starting over again?
If there is a girl he likes, then I would want him to get married.
I think he drinks like this because he is alone.
Ma'am, you must also be frustrated because of him.
- How do you relieve your stress? - I just hold it in.
I'm very good at holding things in. I have that kind of a temperament.
I hold it in all in, but when it becomes unbearable...
I go to the school in front of the house and walk around the field.
The school field.
I also rely on my younger sister...
- Your sister? - She's right there.
I talk with my sister...
about how I'm worried about Yeongseok's drinking problem.
- I relieve my stress that way. - You don't drink while you talk about this, right?
She does.
She can drink.
- She does. - It'd be strange if she didn't.
- That's fine. - Ma'am, how much can you drink?
How much can you drink?
- It's okay. - I can drink a little.
- How many soju bottles can you drink? - One bottle?
(Just whisper it to me)
My limit is half a bottle.
She said it was half a bottle.
I said whisper it but she just said it loudly.
(Her whispering is very loud.)
Everyone heard you say it, Ma'am.
Her younger sister is here. Let's talk with her.
- She looks really young. Hello. - She's the younger sister?
Hello. I'm her youngest sister.
- Okay. - Okay.
- I mean... - She looks young.
There seems to be a huge age gap between you guys. May I ask the age difference?
There is a 22-year gap between us.
- There is a 22-year gap between us. - How many siblings?
- Wow! - I have 2 brothers and 6 sisters.
- Wow! - She is the oldest among the siblings.
- I'm the youngest. - You're the youngest? That's why there is such a big age gap.
How many years younger is your nephew?
He's five years younger.
- I see 5 years. - 5 years.
From the youngest siblings point of view,
your feelings for her must be different.
We have a very big age gap,
but she does feel like my mom.
She is like my mom.
- When did you think she looked the most dejected? - Right.
I was worried about her health.
- She is very old now. - Right.
- Her teeth are in a poor condition, too. - Her teeth?
They are very poor so she needs to get them fixed.
But we can't do that because we don't have the money.
Are you teeth that bad?
It happens to everyone when you age.
- This does happen when you age. - Right.
You soften the rice in water before you eat it, right?
I do it when my teeth hurt, but I'm okay.
Everyone is the same when you age.
It would be nice if you could take your mother to the dentist.
I would if I had the finances to do that.
But I don't, so I just feel really bad.
When do you feel most sad for your grandmother?
Once after she finished work, I went out to welcome her.
At that time, she said that sometimes her wages are very small.
She worried about that and she looked so worn out.
I want to help her out so she doesn't have to work anymore.
- She's 70 and she is still working? - What kind of work do you do?
I can't learn a skill at this age,
so I work at a clothing factory.
I work from 9am to 6pm.
I do all the chores.
That's what I do. But I have to work.
Even though it's hard. However, it's not like I earn a lot of money either.
I just make enough for my allowance and...
I can sometimes pay for the children's cell phone bills.
- That's all I can do. - Gosh! You are amazing.
But my son just continues to drink.
He takes no responsibility so that worries me.
I mean, you are raising the kids and working. Don't you get tired?
There were times I wanted to run away because it was tough.
There were times that I did want to run away.
- However... - They are your family.
How could I run away and leave those poor children to fend for themselves?
They don't have a mother so I have to stick around and be their mother.
Does your son go to work?
Since he drinks a lot,
he doesn't have the endurance to work long. So the job never lasts.
- He has trouble keeping a job? - That makes sense.
- How long? - His body isn't well.
If he lasts a long time, he lasts about eight months to a year.
When he can't, he only lasts about a month. He still hasn't...
- gotten paid for some jobs. - He hasn't been paid.
So, it's a struggle.
You should really stop drinking since you have such poor health.
I do go to work and do my job.
I'm sad because my mom doesn't understand that when I work,
and deliver goods, I get stressed and frustrated.
I get criticized by someone who is younger than me.
I drink to relieve some of that stress.
My mom thinks that I'm drinking for no reason.
- I feel a little disappointed at times like that. - Right.
You're sad because she says you're drinking all the time?
- Yes. - But you do drink all the time.
Well, I am drinking for a reason.
No, that's not a reason...
- What reason? - As I see it...
you're drinking even though you know your liver is in danger.
Let's say you collapsed.
Who is going to take care of the kids?
Your mother came on the program because she is really worried.
What if something really does happen to my son?
Yes, it does feel like I am drinking without a reason.
It looks like you are sulking.
No, that's not it.
What I would really like to ask is,
- Yes? - when you look at your mother...
- I also... - do you try to make promises...
Yes, when I see my mother coming back from work, I also want to cry.
She's going out and working at her age.
I do feel bad.
Haven't you come up with a plan with what you want to do?
- I should make this plan. - Future plan.
First, I need to decrease the amount I drink.
I will try to drink only once in a while.
- Can you actually do that? - No, you said...
If you could do that, you wouldn't be on here.
- Right. You wanted to drink when it was night. - Exactly.
How many times do the kids feel would be possible?
Could you also tell him why you want him to stop drinking as well?
I would like him to only drink once in a while,
and I would like it if he didn't lose his temper.
- And not tickle you. - He loses his temper after he drinks, right?
Yes.
Then, he would lose his temper less if he didn't drink, right?
My father also liked drinking a lot.
After he came back from his check-up at the hospital,
he found out that his health wasn't good.
- He stopped? - My two brothers and I went to our dad...
- and told him that this wasn't good for him. - You asked him to stop?
Yes. After he heard us out,
he realized that he should stop because even his sons were trying to persuade him.
He stopped smoking and drinking.
Right. You need a wake-up call like that.
You need a trigger that makes you realize that change is necessary.
I would like that trigger to be this moment, right now.
- Okay. - Your mother came on the show...
and I'm sure she had a goal. Could you tell us what your goal was?
He always says that he will quit or he won't drink.
He's promised so many times but he can't keep them.
- However, I wanted him... - Yes?
to make a pledge on this show.
- I won't ask him to stop drinking. - Okay.
I just want him to not drink for 2 to 3 days a week.
I would like him to go out and exercise with the kids on the school field.
- Exercise. - I want him to take care of his body.
- Sir, do you think you can cut back on the amount you drink? - Is that possible?
Yes, I will only drink once a week from now on.
I will only drink once a week from now on.
I will work on that.
When you want to drink, try drinking cold water.
- Cold water? - Well,
when you said that, your son...
He didn't look like he believed you.
He had a cynical look. What was that?
Give him the microphone.
What was with that expression? Tell us.
I mean, he agreed to the demands too quickly.
- Exactly. - If he could do that, he wouldn't be on the show.
Why did you have that look on your face?
I don't think he can keep that promise.
- Why do you think he can't keep it? - Why?
How many times has he said this to you?
He's said this countless times.
Are you saying you don't believe him because he has said it countless times?
I think it will be hard for him.
But you have to say you believe that he can do it, in order for him to succeed.
- Right. - Believe in your dad.
- Right. - If his own son can't believe in him,
then he won't have the strength to do it.
You have to say you believe in him, in order for him to succeed.
We are all here to create that belief.
Sir, you have to show your children something.
Are they any promises that you have been able to keep?
Well, I don't think there is.
I think that's how we ended up here.
Through this realization today, I will try and keep my promise.
Really?
Are you making a promise?
Will you not drink tonight?
Yes, I will only drink on Saturdays from now on.
- Gosh. Can you really keep that promise? - Sir...
- I will keep this promise. - You say it so easily. It's hard to believe in you.
No, you have to trust him.
- If you can't keep your promise here, - Right.
then it will be an embarrassing moment for you...
and I believe that you would have lost all credibility as a father.
I think drinking twice a week...
I understand how hard that is because I like to drink.
- It's not that easy to just stop drinking like that. - Right.
I think it would be better if you could make a promise that you can keep...
- and show that to your mother and children. - Exactly.
- Show them. - I think it would be better if you could show them.
What kind of person is your father to you?
He is the most precious father in the world.
Oh my gosh.
She cares for you so much.
What about you, son?
When he's not drinking, he's a kind-hearted farther.
He is a little scary.
- That's not good. - Drinking is not good.
He's such a kind-hearted person when he doesn't drink.
Do you feel the warmth from your family?
I don't know...
if the message about your role as a father has hit you.
I realized once again today,
that my kids had such deep thoughts and were so commendable.
I felt that once again today.
I feel like I have been negligent to my family because of my drinking problem.
I will decrease the amount I drink.
I will give it my all for my family.
You need really work on this because...
your mother had raised you all by herself.
When I paid for my mother's dental surgery,
I didn't even have insurance coverage back then.
Do you know how late shifts I worked to pay for it?
Love is all about suffering.
That's why I have joint pains. I worked so hard to pay for it.
She accepted the surgery.
(She accepted the expensive surgery.)
- It was so expensive. - How did it end up here?
Are you regretting it?
Anyway, we hope you leave with these realizations.
I also believe you came out here because you wanted to change.
If there are any last words that you would like to say to your son, tell him.
You need to become mentally stronger.
You have to do it for Hyeong-jun and Seung-hyeon.
- You need to work hard and reduce the amount you drink.
(Son, please reduce the amount you drink.)
What kind of son is he?
(What kind of son is he?)
- Other people might not like him, but to me he is precious. - Of course.
He is my precious son.
Okay everyone, please tell us if you think this is an issue or not.
I think this is an issue.
(Yoo-jung thinks it's an issue.)
I also think that this is an issue.
- He's the head of a family. - Yes.
He is the only father they have.
I also...
have a lot of love for my grandmother.
I was raised by my grandmother.
- Goodness. - You must miss her.
Yes, so...
She is working so hard,
and she has come out here and asked you like this,
and I keep thinking...
how long...
How long will my grandmother be around?
I keep having these thoughts.
I would like it if you could keep your promise.
- Drink some water when you're sad. - Okay.
I forgot to drink water
- The answer is water. - I'm starting to tear up as well.
I also think that this is an issue.
- It's an issue. - Press the button.
If you think it's an issue for our guest, press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, - 5, 4,
- and 3, 2, 1. - 3, 2, 1.
Please stop pressing.
Is there anything you would like to say to your mother?
Thank you for everything that you have done.
I will try my best from now on.
I love you.
- Yes. - Please say something to the kids.
Please say something.
Please say something to them.
I will keep my promise this time, so please believe in me.
I promise that I will only drink two times a week.
- Please believe in me. - Okay.
I love you guys.
Do the grandkids have anything they'd like to say to their grandmother?
Grandmother, thank you for raising us until now.
We are so grateful.
I know that it is hard for you to work,
so I will be by your side and become your strength.
(I will be your strength.)
As expected of the first son.
That was really cool.
I wonder how many votes they received.
Let's see how many votes "My Life Is So Hard" received.
From 200 possible votes... The end digit is...
I think it will be over 100 votes.
Will it be 130 votes?
It's 150 votes.
(Received 150 votes)
With this,
"My Life Is So Hard" has become this week's winner.
We will give the winner a 1,000-dollar gift certificate.
Congratulations.
Until the day we are all issue-free,
Hello will continue to counsel you.
(Hello will continue to counsel you.)